Showing posts with label Coronavirus. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Coronavirus. Show all posts

Thursday, 13 January 2022

I'm Back!

Hello my lovelies, how are you all?  

Ok, if you follow my facebook page I said my first post this year would be about books, but I've decided to give a brief overview about everything instead. And if you don't follow my facebook page, why on earth not?? Tut, tut, tut. 😜 Here's the link again, so you have no excuse: https://www.facebook.com/MusingsMiddleagedMum


So, I purposely had a break for Christmas, and it was needed.  I've come back this year feeling refreshed and ready to go.  Last week, however, I went to get ready for my first tutorial and my my computer had died.


Not only did the Automatic Repair not work, it wouldn't move off this screen.  I cancelled my tutorials and left it to my techy husband (they do have their uses, lol).  He used some techy magic to recover most of my files, but he couldn't get windows to work.  We wiped everything, started again, and windows still wouldn't work.  He even installed Linux, and even that operating system wouldn't work.  The hard disk was dead as dead can be.

After having to handwrite a comparison spreadsheet (I'm not joking, I am that geeky, and it took two A4 pages), I decided upon and bought a new laptop. Yey!  There are a couple of snags* with it, that I'm sure will be able to be sorted quickly, but overall I'm really pleased with it.
* There is automatically a background noise remover thingy on the microphone, which would be great, except now it stops my headset working with zoom when tutoring.  The only way to bypass is to not use my headset, so all my tutees are rewarded with sounds of my dogs barking in the background.  Should be a simple fix; husband will look at it later.
* Everything on my laptop is automatically saving to One Drive.  I use One Drive for music and photos, but all my large tutoring or Ed Free documents, I do not need nor want saving all the time.  It means I'm getting lots of notifications saying One Drive is full, and adverts where I can buy infinite (nearly) space for only £££ each month.  Again, a simple fix, but I'm ignoring it for now.

What's new with me? Well, yesterday was 20 years since I asked my (now) husband to go out with me.  Very forward of me, but he was/is shyer than me, if you can believe such a thing. Actually, if you know me now, you probably can believe it, but 20 years ago I was a mouse in comparison.  I thought he fancied me, and asked a couple of my friends a few months earlier, and they said that I was just imagining it, and he was just a good friend.  Anyway, in the January, we went back to uni and there was a party a friend of a friend was throwing and we tagged along.  We got drunk enough for me to ask him if he fancied me and for him to say yes - and then I ignored it and continued with the party!  It wasn't until I couldn't sleep that night, because everything was rolling around my head, that I went up to his room and asked him to go out with me, and then went back downstairs to go to sleep. I then didn't see him for 24hrs, because I was at a football match, and wasn't sure if he would remember or if he thought it was a mistake or what.  Ancient history it is, as we're now married, 17 years this coming August, with 2 kids, 2 dogs, and still happy.

I have started reading again - hurray! I don't think I had read anything seriously since about October.  I tend not to read much in December, because it's tacky Christmas movie season, but I had missed reading.  I don't have as much time to read as previously, only an hour on a Saturday of dedicated reading time (except when/if I read a good book, and it takes over my life for a few days), but I'm glad to have started reading regularly again.

And I've started calorie counting.  After hitting my heaviest weight ever after Christmas, I am properly tracking my food in MFP and have been meal prepping. I'm only on week 2, so it's not an established habit yet, but I have lost weight already, which keeps me motivated.

I'm going to my first naturist/clothing optional event for what seems like forever tonight.  Covid, of course, has stopped everything, but theatres are starting to reopen, so my husband and I are going to a clothing optional showing tonight, so that will be fun.

What's not new with me? Still tutoring maths.  Still involved in the home ed world.  Still have my personal trainer twice a week. Still going to church. Still ferrying the girls to dance every night of the week. Still me.

And that's about it!  I hope you all had a good Christmas and New years.  I did.  And that you are well xx


Sunday, 31 October 2021

And another month goes by...

 I'm reminded of the song from Come From Away that sings "And then another, and then another, and then..."


TLDR: 
So this past month, we have had covid in the house, we have had a dance festival, we have had uncertainty around DD1's surgery, we have had exhaustion from school, we have had good days out over half term, we have eaten too much and not exercised enough, though I have exercised some.  I have watched a fair bit of TV and not read much (which tbh hasn't helped my MH much) because I know how far behind I am of the reviews of books that I have read over the summer, and I'm behind on my paid work too.  

Positives:
DD1 came 3rd in her Tap Solo at the dance festival.
DD1 & DD2 came 1st in their Caberet Group dance at the festival.
I have gone on some runs when I've not seen my PT, and am s...l...o...w...l...y increasing in speed.  Still nearly an hour to run (and walk) 5Km, but under an hour nonetheless.
I have watched my first Christmas film of the season.
Despite being fully booked and not advertising at all, I am still getting enquiries about maths tuition.
My house is slowly becoming more organised.
I am trying to catch up on reviews a couple at a time.


Monday, 23 August 2021

Where has the time gone???

I can't believe it's nearly a month since I last posted anything on this blog!  I've got lots to say, but want to post it all separately, so I'll give a quick overview now, and hopefully will find some time in the not-to-distant future to actually write properly.


This past month, it was my 16th wedding anniversary, (did I tell you in July that my hair is no longer purple?  It's red now), I went to Back To the 80s & 90s Festival by myself and had a fab time, I finished reading all the books on my A-Z Challenge list, plus the rest of the Ugly Girl series, I went to London twice with the family to see 2 different shows, I've started going out with friends again in an evening, DD2 had her 11th birthday yesterday, and today was her first day of Summer School (transition week) before starting secondary in September.  I am officially not home educating any more!  I have some new tutees and some old ones lined up for me to start tutoring again.  I am still involved in HE politics, despite it being the summer holidays.  And I'm still seeing my PT.  I know I didn't update you guys with my last set of progress photos (even I can see a difference now compared to how I looked when I started!), but I'm due to take my next set this coming weekend.  I'll also be taking new measurements, and will have a look to see if I am finally starting to lose weight.  Since I started with her in April, I have only put on weight, so it will be good to see if that finally starts to change!  And, as I finished my A-Z of fiction titles I need to set myself a new challenge (based on the books I already have on my kindle that I haven't read yet).  As, on my kindle, I can only sort by Recent, Title or Author, I suppose I'm going to go back to Fiction Authors.  Unlike last time, however, I will not be buying any books to fill-in the letters I'm missing.

Monday, 12 July 2021

Weekly Update - I've broken 2 minutes!

My PT came on Friday for the first time in a couple of weeks (due to a combination of illness, self-isolation and camping) and boy, did it hurt!  It was fun (in a masochistic way) - my PT had 5 A4 pages, which I had to select randomly.  Each one had a different set of exercises, that I had to repeat 4 times.  There was a mix of all the exercises that we had done so far, including boxing, slam balls, weight lifting, Russian twists, sit ups and more.  Afterwards, I ached.  Normally, I don't ache until the next day, but I ached Friday afternoon, all day Saturday, all day Sunday, and this morning my quads were still aching!

Incidentally, if you've been following my FB page (and if not, please CLICK HERE to like and follow me!), you'll know my husband completed Race To The Stones at the weekend.  Just because he covered 100 kilometres, does not mean that his legs ache more than mine after an hour in my garden, lol!


This morning, my PT returned and made me start off with a plank.  Because I am trying to push myself, I asked her not to tell me the time until 1min30secs had gone past, and then every 20 seconds after that.  Today I managed a whopping 2min 08secs in a plank! Beating my previous PB by 11 seconds, and I think I may have been able to go slightly longer had it not been pouring with rain, as my rain coat was much too warm as the hood fell over my head.

The rest of the session today was mainly arms, shoulders and abs.  I don't really ache right now, but know it'll hit me tomorrow.  At least my legs have stopped aching, so it no longer hurts when trying to go up or down stairs. 😃

Monday, 5 July 2021

Weekly Update

This past week I have done nearly zero exercise and have been eating crap. I haven't weighed myself, but I hope to get back to it this week  After a few days of not eating properly, I'm missing vegetables, so I'm looking forward to our veg box coming this Wed.

What I have been doing, is loads and loads of home ed stuff.  I have two different FOIs going on, and have been busy collating the information altogether.  I'm even drawing a pretty chart to display the info, which looks good, but wasn't as easy as I was hoping for!  DD2 missed her transition day for secondary school due to covid, but has been invited to a summer school.  I need to start getting her uniform together - I swear for DD1 I had it all by this point in the year, whereas for DD2, I've barely thought about it.

I have also been reading - hurray! - reading a lot and escaping into other worlds really does help my mental health. I am approximately 5 books/series behind on my book reviews, so instead of doing that (because that would be the obvious thing to do, wouldn't it!), I'm going to go back through all my previous book reviews and group them by genre, so that anyone who wants to find a specific type of book, will be able to find it easier.

Sunday, 7 March 2021

3 Engineering Activities in 3 Branches of Engineering

As it is British Science Week this week, my local Home Education Group run an annual Science Fair.
Last year, this was the last thing we went to before Lockdown, and this year it's all online.  Due to my background, I was asked if I could do something 'engineeringy' and I've decided to share it with you in case you find it useful.

I've split this up into an Introduction to Engineering plus three dives into different branches of engineering.  I would guesstimate that each branch of engineering (Introduction Video, Specific Video plus 3 activities) would take approximately an hour each, but obviously it depends on the age of the child, their concentration/persistence levels and how interested they are; and I'd only expect you to watch the introduction video once. 

I anticipate that most KS2/3/4 can do all the practicals (KS1 can with help) and KS3/4 can do the worksheets (KS2 with help). Each video is only short, so please pause it after each section and come back to it before starting the next activity.

I am not a natural presenter, and you can see that talking to a screen is not natural for me.  I also had to learn some very basic video-editing skills, so please forgive the lack of professionalism.  Even simple things like keeping my hands in one place, meant there's various continuity errors, lol.  And finally, in order to publish everything on this blog, I had to learn how to attach pdfs to blogger and create a YouTube account!  Despite my engineering background (honestly, I do have a Masters from Oxford in it) I'm a bit of a technophobe and very old skool - I've only been using Google Docs for the past month or so!

As there are practicals for you to do at home, you may want to check that you have the necessary materials/supplies listed below before you start; they are all available at a supermarket, if you don't have them at home already.

Video Transcript, if needed, HERE

**Please Note: Some mobile devices are not showing the videos correctly or at all.  You will either need to switch to the Web Version (there's a tiny button at the bottom of the post) or watch the videos directly from YouTube: https://youtu.be/Rp4kgGoukKY

Introduction to Engineering



Print out Word Search HERE


Civil Engineering



(a) spaghetti and marshmallows or jelly tots

(b) 50+ straws, sticky tape, sheets of paper, glue stick, pen

(c) print out worksheet and separate answers HERE


Mechanical Engineering



(a) 2 kitchen roll tubes (or more toilet roll tubes, to make it taller); 1 straw, string/ribbon, yoghurt pot or paper box

(b) print out picture of cogs HERE, stick to thick cardboard (as thick as possible - it will be even easier to do if you have 3 or four sheets of card stuck together) and cut out shapes; 4 kitchen roll tubes, 2 straws, string/ribbon, yoghurt pot

(c) print out worksheet and separate answers HERE


Electrical Engineering



(a) print out sheets of paper circuits HERE and cut them out, or make your own plus print out of Video Answers HERE

(b) D batteries (perhaps taken from a torch), aluminium foil, electrical tape, light bulb (perhaps taken from a torch)

(c) print out worksheet and separate answers HERE



Tuesday, 2 February 2021

Weekly Update

Things are going well!  I have actually lost weight this week - half a kilo, but it all counts.  I'm not actively "dieting" at the moment, I am merely tracking what I eat, eating mindfully when I do, and I am meaning to keep up with the hypnotherapy (which I haven't for a few days...).  Being aware of what I'm eating, eating slowly and knowing that I need to write down and track whatever it is that I do eat, is helping me make wiser choices.

Exercise-wise, I'm going for a 3Km walk every other day.  This week there are free BodyGroove sessions lunchtime and evenings, that I haven't been able to join yet, but I do recommend them nonetheless (the link is on my FB page).


In other news, I am even more busy!  I have more people asking for maths tuition, and I'm having to turn them away, as working full days Wednesdays and Thursdays (plus the prep around them) is enough for me.  When DD2 goes to school, I'll try and spread them throughout the week, and so should be able to fit more people in (since 5 half days is more than 2 full days).

In the Home Ed world, I've been busy doing lots of admin stuff, as well as actually helping people with advice and support.  I know I'm a freak, but I don't mind admin.  It keeps everything organised and you get a sense of achievement when it's done.  It's a shame I don't feel the same way about tidying and cleaning my house!

I have also said I would host some sessions on Engineering for this year's HE Science Fair.  Last year I offered maths tuition, though only the people who I already tutored wanted any, lol.  This year, I've decided to go for a more hands-on demo, looking at what engineering is, and then 3 separate types of engineering.  I'm not a natural teacher (of a group, as opposed to a 1:1 tutor), so I will be pre-recording them, and the rest of each hour, they can do the activities themselves at home.  I have planned what I'm going to do, and what I'm going to talk about; I just need to write some decent notes (beyond my current "talk about engineering"!) and then get around to doing it before March.

And then there's my FutureLearn courses that I have been doing.  I got loads done over Christmas, so signed up to Unlimited, and since then finding the time to study is difficult.  I had planned to do it Monday afternoons, but then other things come along - like yesterday, I was sat at my computer 9am-7pm, including lunch, doing HE admin stuff that needs to be done because the government's HE Inquiry is still going on.

And to keep me sane, I need to find time to read.  We've had to take our pup to the vets a bit recently (D&V, though she's declared fit again now), so I've been able to use that time to read, as we're not allowed in the vets due to coronavirus.  A couple of times when I've tried to read during the day, I've fallen asleep, which isn't a good habit to get into as I have far too much stuff to do.

So, yeah, I've been busy, but that's life. 

Thursday, 31 December 2020

My Books of 2020

I had set myself the challenge on Goodreads to read 70 books this year, and I smashed that by reading over 80! 

Next year, however, I'm going to be setting myself the more modest target of 50 books.  The reason for that is because I'm actually reading less when we're in lockdown!  At the start of Lockdown 1, I was reading a lot - everything had stopped, I was advised to self isolate, and it was sunny, so I was sat in the garden reading lots.  Bliss!  However, I was then told that I shouldn't have been told to self isolate, worked started up again (albeit virtually) and when the girls' dance classes started up, the parents couldn't wait inside, so I was driving more frequently back and forth, rather than waiting in the carpark in the cold, and when we brought our puppy home, I was then using that time to take her for walks - so even less reading.

So, here is my completed list of all the books that I have read this year, with links to my reviews - I have tried to review the books without giving away any spoilers.

Keen-eyed people may note that the last few don't have working links as yet, and that's because I haven't published the reviews yet, but when I do, I'll update this page.

Fiction


Non-Fiction


Christian Inspirational


So that's my list!  The formatting is a bit funny, but I thought 'sod that'.  The point of this post is to highlight the books, so I've left them large.  And yes, there are some books that fit into multiple categories, so I tried to put them in the most relevant one.

I don't have a favourite book of the year, but going through them all again now has reminded me of some pleasant memories.  I hope some of these titles call out to you, and you enjoy reading them as much as I have.


Tuesday, 29 December 2020

Weekly Update - End of Year

I hope you have all had a good Christmas, despite the difficulties of not seeing friends and family because of Covid.


I had a nice relaxing time with my family and new pup.  We opened presents, ate a late lunch, and relaxed altogether.

Since then, I've started decorating my new room.  As we finished DD1's room, she has now moved up into the attic, and my room has been emptied.  So, I've painted one wall today, and I hope to paint the other three walls tomorrow.  I can then start buying furniture for it.  The biggest thing to go in there is a sofa bed, which we already have, but it'll be moved upstairs and I've got a new cover to go on it, so it will match the rest of the room.

I do need to do my Self-Assessment for my tutoring work.  I've never left it this late before.  I said the same last year, when I finally did it in October.  I just hope that next year, I don't leave it another 3+ months after the date I complete it this year (since the deadline is 31st January!).

After the New Year, I'll start reading up on the Home Ed stuff again, and fighting both locally and nationally.  Having my own work room will help me stay organised.

I still have one book review to write up, and ideally, I'd like to finish 3 of the books that I am currently reading, and write up reviews of those.  I'll then go through the whole year to give a complete list of the 70+books I have read this year.  Next year, I think I will lower the number of books I plan to read to about 50.  Not to say that I don't think I could read that many again, but if I am getting involved in other things, perhaps studying more too, I simply won't have time to read as much as I have done recently.  I am not sitting in the dance studios any more (due to covid) and haven't even finished the MosaiCraft portrait I bought for myself to do over Lockdown1.  Again, this is because I'm not sat waiting much anymore.  On a Tuesday, when I am waiting for an hour and a half, it is dark at the moment, and I have the pup with me, so it wouldn't be wise to do anything as fiddly as MosaiCraft.

I would like to start focussing on getting healthy again in the new year.  I am very aware that I need to get on the waiting list to have my mastectomy before I'm 40 (so I have 18months), and to have the reconstruction I really do want, I need to lose weight.  I have discovered that surgeons differ by how much weight I'd have to lose, so to know for sure, I will need to actually meet with one.  My mental state has enjoyed not weighing myself every day recently, but my clothes are aware that my weight is creeping up, as I expected it would (not least because it always does when I'm not weighing myself).  I find myself wondering if I can incidentally lose weight by focussing on a different area of my health?  What if I simply record what I am eating and how much exercise I am doing?  If I can get past the shame of recording every bite, will just knowing that I will be writing it later, help me focus my thoughts on healthy foods and the impacts that it will have on my health?  Maybe, just maybe.  And when it gets warmer, I do want to take my pup jogging (she likes it when I run with her now, but it isn't as fun for me when I'm wrapped in a big coat, scarf and boots, lol).

So, that's my quick update and vague plans for next year.

I pray that you can enjoy this festive period, and that your 2021 is better than this year has been xxx

Monday, 21 December 2020

Weekly Update

 It's nearly CHRISTMAS!! Yey!

🎵Four more sleeps to go!
Four more sleeps to Santa!
Four more sleeps 'til the big fat fella comes down our chimney and drinks our beer.
Four more sleeps to Santa!🎶

So this week, we have bought and made DD1's new bed, emptied out her old room (I am yet to start painting), finished working for the year and travelled to a random services on the motorway in order to swap presents before parts of the country go into tier 4.

We're fortunate, in that our plans haven't changed too much as we were going to be home over Christmas itself anyway, but we're unable to see family before and after.  It is for the best, and though I think things could have been done by the government a lot sooner, it is definitely necessary.  

If I don't get the chance to say it, I hope you have the best Christmas you can this year, given the circumstances xx

Monday, 7 December 2020

Weighty Worries

I've been trying to write this post for the past fortnight, and I keep starting and deleting.  I'm going round in circles in my mind and I don't know what to do.

I am not losing weight.  It's easy enough to see why - I'm not limiting my eating enough and/or not exercising enough.  And I don't want to.  There, I said it.  I've known for a while my mind isn't in the right place to lose weight.

I'm ok with how I look.  Whilst ideally I would like to lose some weight, actually, I'm ok with how I am. I do have moments, especially when I'm on zoom calls, where I notice my double chin is looking more like a triple or quadruple chin, and I would like to be thinner so I have more choice of clothing, but I don't care enough to change for those reasons.

I'm trying to lose weight in order to have DIEP reconstruction when I have my double mastectomy.  I haven't spoken to a GP or surgeon yet, because I've heard that in order to have DIEP your BMI has to be below a certain level. My BMI is currently 34.5 and I've heard it should be a maximum of 27, if not 25 (ie top end of Healthy weight). So, I've started to think about having implants instead.  I've got no issue with implants, but it's not what I wanted, and that thought makes me sad. Yet, surely if I cared enough, I would make the effort to lose weight? Surely I wouldn't be stuffing mince pies in my gob at every opportunity?

When I had my hysterectomy, I planned on having mastectomy by the time I'm 40.  I'm 38 now, which means (assuming it takes a year for the process [ignoring coronavirus]), I need to see my GP and request it in less than 6 months time. I lack the self belief, let alone will-power, that I am going to be able to lose weight in that time.

I feel like stopping actively trying to lose weight is quitting.  And that isn't good for my depression.
I feel like continuing with the charade of weekly updates makes me a fraud.  And that isn't good for my depression.

If I could have surgery today and any reconstruction I want, I would choose DIEP, even with the added risks of being overweight and the longer recovery time.  Implants is an option, and I could potentially swap implants for DIEP later in the future.  But I don't want implants.  And I don't like to fail.

Who knows? This could be my depression talking, because it's dark and wintery, I've missed my antidepressants a bit too often recently, and I want an excuse to not have to watch what I'm eating with Christmas coming up.  Or it could be that I'm finally facing up to the truth that I don't have the willpower, energy, or strength of character to lose weight effective.  I'm just too lazy.

Wednesday, 4 November 2020

After Days: Affliction or America Falls: Hell Week by Scott Medbury

I read Affliction (After Days Book 1) as my A in my new A-Z challenge; however, when coming to write this review, I have discovered this series has been rebranded.  What was one book, Affliction, has now been split into two books in the America Falls series: Hell Week and On The Run, as such you can not read Affliction anymore, so I won't link to that.


This book is very timely and apt, though with some differences! It follows Isaac, a teenager, as he learns to adapt to the new world.  After a sudden outbreak of a deadly virus in Korea, the virus was contained before being discovered on American soil.  Unfortunately, it wasn't too long before it was obvious that the virus was a biological weapon, and only people of Chinese heritage or who hadn't finished growing (ie children) we safe from death - though arguably they may have a worse fate having survived.  Isaac meets other children on his travels, and becomes the natural leader of the group as they struggle to get to a safe haven in the Drake Mountains.

The blurb of Hell Week says:

Infection. Invasion. Chaos. A weaponized virus ravages the U.S. somehow leaving children and young adults unscathed. As hundreds of millions die, for those left, surviving the virus is only the beginning…

Isaac Race thought he'd found a new family and home. A new Life. He had, but it's all about to be snatched away. When an ambitious enemy launches a sneak attack on the USA, his peaceful life is shattered and Isaac, by his very nature a loner, must band together with a ragtag group of survivors to make their way to a sanctuary, three states away in the depths of a vicious east coast winter.

It won’t be easy, the invaders aren't the only dangers unleashed in a world suddenly turned upside down, and if they're going to survive, they'll need to be resourceful and ruthless and rely on others in a world where trust has been shattered.

I loved this book.  It is really gripping; I just hope that splitting it into two hasn't diluted it too much.  It has been written in a very clever way, in that it alludes to some horrific and gruesome things, but doesn't elaborate, so it is up to you what you imagine (and such, could be suitable for younger readers).  When I was looking for this book on Amazon, and initially couldn't find it, I was disappointed, as I would like to finish the rest of the series; so I am glad that the series is still there under an alternative name (even though I think there should be some reference to the change on at least Hell Week's write-up).
A good book.


Tuesday, 3 November 2020

Endless Pawsibilities and Fetch Groom



I thought I would do a shout-out to two local businesses.


Endless Pawsibilities is a dog training service run by the amazing Mel.  She does (did before lockdown) group classes, which allow the socialisation of dogs as well as their humans being put through their paces as they learn how to get the best out of their pooches; and she does 1:1 lessons - and it is these that we have gone for.  We have had two hours of training so far, and it has been really useful.  The first session we looked at Sit and Come - I'd say Come is about 75% there, whereas Sit is a bit more hit and miss.  She will sit for us when at home or in the garden, provided there is nothing more exciting there!

Today I had both girls with me and we talked about how to react when our puppy nips us, and tries to explore our hands and feet with her mouth.  We also looked again at desensitising her to her harness and collar, and also the car.  This is much harder as she is fearful.  Though she is happy enough when out walking, she would rather not be anywhere near them at any other time.

I'm hoping in the next two weeks we can make progress with our pup before we see Mel again.






Fetch Groom is local dog grooming service run by Aggy and her team.  She offers a myriad of different services for your dogs, from a basic trim, to something more extravagant.  We went for the Puppy's First Groom and were not disappointed.  Our dog was very relaxed and comfortable, and came back looking cute and young again.  We'll be very happy to go back again in six weeks time.


Monday, 2 November 2020

Weekly Update Y2w44

Not a pretty graph this week.  I don't have any excuse.  I've been lazy and not cooked much in the eveningd.  It's been Halloween and I made Witches Slime and Pumpkin Pie. And I've shared a couple of bottles of red with my other half.

Witches Slime
aka Green Custard
with sweets and fruit

The fortnightly average does look better than the 5-day average, but that's only because it's fairly constant recently - ie I'm not losing weight.



A second lockdown kicks off again this Thursday, and though schools are staying open, dance studios are not, so we're back to dance lessons via zoom.  Looking at the positive, I'll be kicked out of the living room again in the evenings, so I might as well cook delicious and healthy dinners.  
That's the plan anyway.

And I have started taking our puppy out for walks.  She is still terrified of the car, which in turn means she dislikes her harness and collar, however, once she is on the walk she seems to love it, so hopefully I'll be able to get plenty of walks and exercise with her.




Tuesday, 27 October 2020

Weekly Update Y2w43 & BodyGroove Workshop

 My weight has come down since last week - yey!  It hasn't been smooth sailing though, and my weight got even higher before it started to lower again.  And, where I'm alternating sleeping on the sofa, I keep forgetting to weigh myself, so that's why there are gaps in the graph.


I'm not giving up though.  

At the weekend, I did a 2-day Body Groove Workshop.  Back in June (I think), I was meant to be going to Birmingham for a face-to-face workshop with Misty Tripoli, but Coronavirus put paid to that. 
On each day over the weekend were 4 hours of Body Groove dancing, philosophy, meditation and life coaching, with women from all over the world. (Shout out to Bettina and Krista: I wish you both success and happiness in all you do.)

We were taught about the Seven Dimensions of Wellbeing: Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Social, Spiritual, Occupational and Environmental.  We were taught that in order to have joy in your life, you need to be authentically you in each of these areas, and we can work towards that in small steps to increase the joy in our lives. 



There was also a key quote that bears repeating:

"You need structures in place that are sufficient to your resistance to succeed."

This is a key thing for me.  You have seen in my attempts of losing weight the past couple of years that my resistance to succeed is strong! I am hoping that now I have a dog, I will be forced to take a daily walk, but this still hasn't happened so far - our puppy hates wearing a collar and a harness, and we've been advised by both the breeder and a dog trainer to go back a stage and generate positive associations with them first, before taking her out.  But, it's taking a long time.  She is now more than happy to sniff and eat treats off them (which she wasn't before), but still panics if we try and lay them on her (not even doing them up).  Unfortunately, there are times when I have to take her out of the house, so am forced to put them on her despite her distress. Back to the point, I haven't yet been going out for daily walks.  But, I have tried to minimise my resistance to going - I've bought myself new boots and a set of waterproofs (incl trousers) so I cannot use the rain as an excuse for not getting outside.

We also looked at ways to bring more playfulness into our lives, and what it is that we truly desire without attaching judgements to those thoughts.  We need to increase connections, both with other people, but also internally.  We need to analyse the judgements we make of ourselves and ask ourselves four key questions, based on The Work by Byron Katie (which I've not read yet, but have added to my wishlist):

  1. Is it true?
  2. Is it absolutely true?
  3. Who do I become because of that thought?
  4. In that same moment, who would I be if I couldn't think those thoughts?
I found this challenging because a lot of my judgements about myself are about my need and desire to lose weight.  I am fat - that is absolutely true.  I do need to lose weight - if I want to have DIEP reconstruction after a mastectomy, but if I didn't think I needed to lose weight, I could have reconstruction using implants.  If I didn't align my self worth to losing weight, would I be happier?  What if I didn't keep thinking back to when I was 28 and managed to lose 5 stone (thinking "I did it once, I should be able to do it again"), rather simply accepted this is me now? [For context, I'm back at the same weight I was before I started losing it last time.  'They' say you can't keep the weight off for 5 years, but that's exactly what I did do, before it all piling back on.]  
This is an area that I still need to work on.

It has, also, reignited ideas about becoming a facilitator of Body Groove.  One of my fears is that nobody would want to take part because I'm overweight myself, but others assured me that that shouldn't be an issue, because although Body Groove enables a healthy lifestyle, the purpose isn't to lose weight (though it may be a side effect).  Other fears are around being the centre of attention, and being willing to allow others to see me getting my groove on.  I get embarrassed and self conscious easily, so am I willing to put myself out there and show other people there's nothing to fear?  What if nobody turned up and I was just in a room in a dance studio by myself - I'd find that really embarrassing too!  And of course there are the costs involved, and the added difficulty of covid meaning no more than 15 people at a time, socially distanced apart - can you even groove on the spot?  I don't know.  Much to think about, that's for sure.





Friday, 2 October 2020

Home Education Inquiry - Call for Evidence

The UK government has launched an inquiry into Home Education and is currently calling for evidence.

Click HERE for the link to submit your own response.  The deadline is 6th November 2020.

I have been asked to go through this documentation and put together my own thoughts and reasonings, in case they are of use to others, so here goes...

The Call for Evidence introduces itself as:

The Committee invites written submissions addressing any or all of the following points:

  • The duties of local authorities with regards to home education, including safeguarding and assuring the quality of home education;
  • whether a statutory register of home-educated children is required;
  • the benefits children gain from home education, and the potential disadvantages they may face;
  • the quality and accessibility of support (including financial support) available for home educators and their children, including those with special educational needs, disabilities, mental health issues, or caring responsibilities, and those making the transition to further and higher education;
  • whether the current regulatory framework is sufficient to ensure that the wellbeing and academic achievement of home educated children is safeguarded, including where they may attend unregistered schools, have been formally excluded from school, or have been subject to ‘off-rolling’;
  • the role that inspection should play in future regulation of home education;
  • what improvements have been made to support home educators since the 2010-15 Education Committee published their report on ‘Support for Home Education’ in 2012; and
  • the impact COVID-19 has had on home educated children, and what additional measures might need to be taken in order to mitigate any negative impacts.’

Going through the links, it states that the evidence should be concise, and if it is over 3000 words it should include a summary at the start, and specifies:

Your uploaded file must

  • be less than 25MB
  • be a single Word, ODT or RTF document
  • not contain logos 

And then you get taken through to the place where you can upload your file.

I am not going to share my actual response here, but rather my thoughts and concerns about each of the things mentioned above.

1) The duties of local authorities with regards to home education, including safeguarding and assuring the quality of home education;

The LA has no such duty to assure the quality of home education.  Section 7 of the 1996 Education Act states the responsibility of PARENTS as follows:

Duty of parents to secure education of children of compulsory school age.

The parent of every child of compulsory school age shall cause him to receive efficient full-time education suitable —

(a) to his age, ability and aptitude, and

(b) to any special educational needs he may have, either by regular attendance at school or otherwise.

It is the parents responsibility to ensure that the quality of education being provided to their children, whether at school or otherwise, is suitable and efficient.  However, if there is genuine concern that the child is not being given an appropriate education, the LA can make informal enquiries, and if these are not satisfied, then there are further steps that can be taken.  

In fact, the recent Guidance for Parents (published in April 2019, that I have previously gone through HERE) specifically states:

5.1 Your local authority has no formal powers or duty to monitor the provision of education at home.

Regarding Safeguarding, Section 7.3 of the Guidance for LAs explicitly states "There is no proven correlation between home education and safeguarding risk".  Indeed Graham Stuart, MP and previous Chair of the Education Select Committee, stated that home educated children are "peculiarly visible".  There has been a review of all the Serious Case Reviews (SCRs) in the country, and there has never been a case where home education has been a causative factor.  Just because a child is home educated, does not mean they are locked under the stairs, rather they are out and about in society, and very noticeable due to the relative lack of other children who are hidden away in schools...

LAs do have a duty of care regarding the safeguarding of ALL children - and if there are any concerns, then they should get Social Services involved, using the processes and powers that they already have.

2) whether a statutory register of home-educated children is required;

3) the benefits children gain from home education, and the potential disadvantages they may face;

This is interesting that they have included this here, and it is not something that I have seen asked about before - the benefits of HE!  And there are many.  

Just off the top of my head: freedom to learn, freedom to live, freedom to choose friends who share interests, rather than sharing age.  Being part of society, rather than apart from society.  Following your own interests in as much depth as you want, without being bound by arbitrary bells, signalling the end of a lesson, or arbitrary syllabi stating that it is out of scope of the exam.  Learning life skills, not just cooking and cleaning, but how society works - seeing parents making appointments with the doctor, dentist, optician; going to banks and post offices; paying bills, learning about taxes, learning about budgets and meal planning and shopping accordingly, growing plants from seeds that you care for and can eventually eat the fruits of the harvest.  Discovering your passion in an unusual area, doing your own research to find out what skills and qualifications are required to pursue that career.  Realising that learning is fun and learning is life.  Knowing deep in your soul that learning does not stop at 18years old, and there is no such thing as "too late".  Understanding that if you don't have a passion for a specific career at a young age, it's ok, because you have your whole life ahead of you and you can always go to college or university later in life.  
As I said, that's just off the top of my head.  It wouldn't surprise me if there are many more. Lack of bullying...

Potential disadvantages of HE:

Honestly? The only one I can think of is "computer says no".  DD1 is now in school, and DD2 has started showing interest in following her, but when I was imagining/anticipating HEing throughout their childhood, I would have strongly encouraged them to get their maths and English GCSEs.  Not because I think they hold any particular value - quite the contrary. But because I can honestly imagine (and having an engineering degree myself, so knowing some programmers it is not a stretch of the imagination by any means!) the situation where a HE child with a passion for maths, for example, skips GCSEs and maybe A-Levels too, studies a maths degree with the OU, then goes to a brick university for Masters or PhD in a maths discipline, decides academia isn't for them, so wants to be get a job somewhere, and despite being the world expert in their particular field, because they don't have maths GCSEs, they can't "tick the box" on an online recruitment form, and so are denied a myriad of jobs that they would be brilliant at.

Other "potential" disadvantages sound like you are scraping the barrel to come up with hypothetical scenarios, and then twist them into "proof" that HE is bad.  Everyone knows about the S-word (socialisation) and how untrue it actually is for people who home educate. Lack of breadth of learning - but the same can be said for schools, for kids who are not into academics, but would rather do something practical, and perhaps learn business alongside where the maths/english etc has relevance.  

But as I said, the fact it has asked for potential disadvantages, makes me feel like they are clasping at straws, so other than the one above I mentioned, I'm inclined to not reply to this section.

4) the quality and accessibility of support (including financial support) available for home educators and their children, including those with special educational needs, disabilities, mental health issues, or caring responsibilities, and those making the transition to further and higher education;


When parents opt to home educate their children, they opt to take on all financial responsibility for their children's education - much like when a parent opts to use a private or independent school.  As such, there is no financial support available for the majority of HErs.  

Other than the obvious impact if a parent decides to stop working in order to facilitate HE, the main financial concern comes surrounding exams.  Parents need to find an exam board, pay for the exam, find a centre to sit the exam, and pay the centre for the privilege of sitting the exam, at the minimum. For example, if it is impossible to find a local exam centre that accepts external candidates, the cost of transport and accommodation, food and other sundries, needs to be taken into account for every exam.

Some HE parents want the government to provide free exams (usually GCSEs) for HE kids, whilst other HE parents are rightly concerned about what "strings" will be attached for such an arrangement.  If such an arrangement were possible, I would want it optional, and parents still be able to choose to arrange exams without governmental control.  My preference, rather, is that all HE colleges must accept external candidate, without charge for using the premises, if they are already sitting an exam on that date.  So, the exam itself could still cost money, but everyone will be able to find somewhere local to them in order to sit the exam.  In the rare case where the college cannot accommodate an external student, they have to be able to justify it.  (For example, I have heard some smaller colleges do not accept external candidates for summer exams, because they are full to capacity, but do accept them in November and January because fewer of their students are doing resits.)

Care and support for people with SEN - legally there should be no difference whether the child is at school or otherwise.  However, anecdotally, this is not always the case.  Many people pursuing EHCPs for their children get told that this can only be done in a school environment (untrue) or conversely that because their child has an EHCP that they cannot HE (also untrue).  The same is often true for people looking for official diagnosis of autism or ADD, GPs will tell parents that they have to go through the school for referral (untrue).  Referral to CAMHS, TAMHS and other children's mental health support, can also be difficult when HE, not least because parents try to mitigate any factors automatically as part of their parenting, so the children may appear to have milder symptoms compared to others at school, when they do indeed need high levels of support.

Though not SEN related, there are other disparities between care for schooled and home-educated children, eg use of a school nurse (who legal is responsibly for the care of all school-aged children) or getting vaccinations and being told by doctor's receptionists that HE kids cannot book into the surgery because they will be done at school!

Transition to further and higher education doesn't seem to be a problem; generally educational establishments liaise with parents as they would with a schooled kids' teachers.

5) whether the current regulatory framework is sufficient to ensure that the wellbeing and academic achievement of home educated children is safeguarded, including where they may attend unregistered schools, have been formally excluded from school, or have been subject to ‘off-rolling’;

I've already talked about the first half of this, though when I write the report I'll probably just C&P what I wrote above.  I'll also add in/ask how they ensure the academic achievement of schooled children is safe guarded, when too many children come out of school without reaching the government's "minimum standards"?

Attending unregistered schools isn't home education. I'm trying to think of a good analogy but my brain isn't working this morning, so I hope this suffices: Most people use banks or building societies for their money; however some people prefer to save up in piggy banks at home.  This question is the equivalent of asking whether the current frame work is sufficient for people who save at home, including those who invest in dodgy deals?!  If you are investing in dodgy deals, you are not saving at home.  If your child is attending an unregistered school, then you are not educating at home!

Similarly, I have to ask if being formally excluded from school the same as home education?  Surely that's a totally separate thing, and because it's the parent's choice to register their child in school, if their child is excluded, then it is the LAs responsibility for finding another school place or ensuring the child is educated.

And again, Off-rolling Prevention should be an LA/Ofsted joint initiative, and though the parents/child have been forced to home educate, really this situation should not have anything to do with HE regs or guidance, but all within the monitoring of the behaviour of schools.

6) the role that inspection should play in future regulation of home education;

Define "inspection". LAs have no duty to monitor HE (C&P from above).

The government does not inspect the kitchens of all parents to ensure they are feeding their children a balanced/government approved diet; they only go in to inspect when there is cause for concern.  The same should be for home education.

In fact, the time of year when most child abuse instances occur is over the summer holidays, and the government does not routinely inspect parents homes whose kids are out of school, yet there is statistical proof that these children are the most at risk.

7) what improvements have been made to support home educators since the 2010-15 Education Committee published their report on ‘Support for Home Education’ in 2012; 

This is a 112 page document, and can be found HERE though the main document is only the first 25 pages, the rest being annexes.

This question asks what improvements have been made since this report, and judging by the summary that I'll copy below, the answer is Zero improvements.

Summary
In England, the responsibility for a child’s education rests with his or her parents: education is compulsory, but school is not. Our inquiry sought to look specifically at the support which is available to home educators, and at the relationships between home educators and local authorities.
Whilst Government guidance sets out the role of local authorities with regard to home education, we heard evidence that some authorities are acting outside the law. We urge all local authorities to undertake a swift review of their own material, including websites, and to ensure that their policies reflect the guidance available. Some aspects of existing guidance require clarification, and we recommend that the Department for Education undertakes a review of guidance relating to home education.
We saw some examples of outstanding practice, where local authorities have made real efforts to improve their behaviour, structures and accessibility better to work with and for home educators. However, we also saw evidence of inconsistency across the country, leading to a ‘postcode lottery’ for home educators. A number of innovative models for remedying this were described to us, and we are pleased to support those. The development of a more formalised professional association of, and/or annual conference for, home education officers could be a welcome step in terms of sharing best practice nationally. Local authorities might also improve their relationships with home educators by ensuring officers dealing with these issues are placed in a dedicated or neutral team: locating home education officers with those working on, for example, attendance, children in care or safeguarding gives an unhelpful impression.
We also recommend that the Department for Education carries out an audit of local authorities’ performance regarding home education. Publishing the results, showing which local authorities are performing well, would fit well with the Government’s transparency drive. We received little evidence from home educators arguing for increased financial support, but we heard many calls for better or fairer provision of services. We have not, therefore, recommended any system-wide changes to financial support for home educators, although we call on central Government to explain better how available funding might be obtained and utilised, and on local authorities to utilise and claim such funding. We do, however, make a number of recommendations regarding the provision of services for home educators and their families. At present, some home-educated young people experience difficulties in accessing and affording public examinations which are readily available to others. We recommend that the Government places a duty on every local authorities to ensure access to local centres for home-educated young people to sit accredited public exams. We further recommend—given the contribution that many home educators make through their taxes—that the costs of sitting public examinations (to an appropriate level of entitlement) be met by the State.
In other areas, such as transition to further education, and access to cultural and leisure services, we heard of patchy provision across the country. Whilst we agree with the 4 Support for Home Education Minister that local authorities, and not central Government, must be responsible for service provision in their area, it is not acceptable that home-educated young people receive such different levels and quality of support dependent purely upon their postcode. Local authorities should produce ‘local offers of support’, stating what services are available to home-educating families, and the Department for Education should support pilots for such a scheme. We also look forward to the outcomes of the Department’s investigations into allegations of malpractice around young people with SEN or health needs who are home-educated: we heard some worrying evidence that provisions were not being fully met as they would be for schooled children.
It is clear from the evidence we received that many parties, both home educators and local authorities, have made real efforts to engage, to understand each other’s motivations and constraints, and to ensure more constructive relationships and better support. We acknowledge that there is some way to go, and look forward to seeing a more consistent approach to home education across the country. 


Many LAs still act outside the law, demand to visit homes, meet the children and see examples of work - all of which are unnecessary according the the Guidance for LAs (2019) and the Guidance for Parents (2019).  Some LAs refuse to given give new HErs information about local peer support, such as groups on Facebook.

LAs still do not have adequate training of their EHEOs.  Many are still ex teachers (so expect to see school-at-home), or have no knowledge of HE, education, pedagogy or any relevant qualifications.  Attempts for HErs to educate and work alongside their LA have mixed results.  Locally we have been going through a cycle of getting to an agreement, and then the EHEOs find new jobs, so we have to start again; and worse, we've been told, verbally, "yes" and the right sounds, only for nothing to actually change in reality. And there is still the overlap (ie the literal same people) being EHEOs and EWOs.  Paragraph 28 of the aforementioned document states "The team within which local authority home education officers sit can give out an important message about that authority’s view of home education. For example, it is inappropriate for such officers to be located with those working on attendance, children in care or safeguarding" - this hasn't changed at all.

Paragraph 34 on funding available for HE kids: "However, where funding is available, central Government needs to explain better how this can be obtained and utilised. We cannot understand why some local authorities refuse to utilise or claim such funding, and urge those that have done so to change their position."; in from Para 33 "Alison Sauer, who has conducted audits of local authorities, wrote that “many have decided that they will not be offering this funding”; Swindon and Poole were cited as having adopted this policy,".

Paragraph 43 on access to exam centres: "It does not seem reasonable to us that home educators in some areas have such a struggle accessing examinations centres for their children. We recommend that the Government place a duty on every local authority to ensure access to local centres for home-educated young people to sit accredited public examinations."  AFAIK people are still having to travel across the country in order to access and sit various examinations.

Paragraph 47 on access to college: "We congratulate the Government on giving further education colleges the power to admit 14 to 15-year-olds directly, and welcome this policy move, which we hope might benefit home educators as well as others." Whilst admittance of pre-16s to college is a good thing, some colleges have determined that it is too much of a hassle, some will only allow HE students to study specific subjects, or a narrow range of qualifications within that subject.  Some also will not allow all 14yos to study there, citing that the child "must be in years 10 or 11", meaning that kids who turn 14 at the start of September, have to wait a whole year before being allowed to enroll in a course.

Para 52 on local support: "Whilst we agree with the Minister’s view that local authorities, and not central Government, must be responsible for service provision in their area, we do not consider it acceptable that home-educated young people receive such different levels and quality of support dependent purely upon their postcode. Local authorities should be expected to produce a ‘local offer of support’ for home educators, stating what services are available, how these differ from those for parents of schooled children, and enabling home educators to compare with practice elsewhere. Critically, local offers must be developed in consultation with home educators and their families. We recommend that the Department for Education support pilots for such a scheme, and play a role in monitoring the quality of local offers and the adherence applied to them by local authorities. " - I haven't seen any evidence of this happening at all.

Para 57 is about children with SEN and EHCPs: "We are pleased that the Minister confirmed, in her evidence to us, that local authorities remain responsible for ensuring that provisions in Statements are met, and were equally pleased that she agreed the issues relating to home-educated young people with SEN or complex health needs, but without Statements, should be investigated. We look forward to the outcomes of the Department for Education’s investigations in this area. In the meantime we urge local authorities to comply with statutory guidance and ensure that home-educated young people with SEN or medical conditions are not being discriminated against" - this isn't my area of expertise, tbh, but this paragraph doesn't seem to say very much, other than "don't discriminate".

I'm not going to go through the Annexes of that document, but the link is just above in case you did want to read it through.

8) the impact COVID-19 has had on home educated children, and what additional measures might need to be taken in order to mitigate any negative impacts.

The main two impacts (off the top of my head - I'm getting tired now!) are about exams and groups/meets.

There are many HE students who were due to take exams over the summer that were cancelled due to covid. The parents had already paid for the examinations, and have received no refund.  And because the candidates were home educated, they could not be examined based on continuous assessment, because (somewhat understandably) so have been left with no grades. Link to Independent Article

Whilst some lucky students have been accepted on courses without their grades (see Section 3 above for potential problems facing people without grades), and some have been allowed to "resit" the exams in the November exam period, others have been left floundering with nothing, and no way to change it.

Similarly, there is still uncertainty about 2021 exams due to covid, and some parents are not entering their children in to exams for fear of having the same issues as this year's cohort.

Groups and meets are the other main issue due to covid.  Larger meets generally haven't had any problems, especially those provided by local businesses, because they have large enough premises to be socially distant, are fully insured, and are large enough that they have enough business to keep running in these unprecedented times.  Smaller meets, that are run for free in each others homes, are the ones that have had to stop.  Due to the Rule of 6, only smaller families can meet socially with one another.  It's not all loss - thankfully due to advances in technology, zoom, discord etc, kids can still access various online groups, they can still FaceTime each other, spend time with friends etc, but this has had an impact on HE families.

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I've been at this a while so I'm going to stop there for today.  I'll leave writing my actual response to a different day - as a reminder, we have until 6th November 2020.

I hope this has at least prompted some thoughts about they type of thing you can include, if you wish.  I don't claim this is exhaustive, or that it is the perfect response, but merely provide it as a help for you to write your own.