Saturday 29 June 2019

A few words about abortion


I want to talk about abortion, but I have been putting it off. Whilst I like to stimulate debate and discussion, and I genuinely do enjoy reading other people’s views, I don’t like conflict and I don’t want people’s views pointed against me.

Being a Christian, it’s easy to assume what my pov regarding abortion is, but it’s actually more complicated.


When I was younger, I did see life very black and white. I can remember having to write an essay on a ‘controversial subject’ for my English GCSE and I wrote about abortion. I quoted Psalm 139:13For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb’ and Matthew 10:30 even the hairs on your head are all numbered’. I quoted Exodus 20:13 ‘Do not murder’ and Numbers 35:16 But if he struck him down ..., so that he died, he is a murderer.’. I didn’t get a good mark because I was told that I hadn’t argued the other point of view, however to me, there wasn’t another pov: you should always try and protect life. Even if the baby was conceived in a horrendous and violent manner, it’s still not the baby’s fault and they deserve a chance at life.

As I got older, I did start to see life's nuances. Not only did I become friends with women who had had or had considered abortion, but I had my own life experiences that affected my beliefs. When I was pregnant with DD1 I had Hyperemesis Gravidarum, commonly called “extreme morning sickness”. I lost over 3 stone in the first trimester and when I was at my worst, I considered a good day to be one where I kept down a single hula hoop and a single sip of water. I was in severe malnutrition and dehydration and it was affecting all aspects of my life. After I had given birth, I came across the HelpHER website (and wish I had found it earlier), and on the forum the women there were grieving because a lady had recently died. She also disagreed with abortion, so continued with her pregnancy against medical advice, and it resulted in the loss of her life and that of her unborn child.

Pregnancy is hard work on the body and on the mind, and to force someone to undergo a pregnancy isn’t right. Not only is there the risk of HG, but the mother may have other underlying medical conditions that mean pregnancy isn’t advisable. And the reverse is also true, just because a women may not be in prime mental or physical health, does not mean that you should force an abortion on a woman who doesn’t want one. There was a case in the UK recently where doctors tried to do just that. [LINK]

My largest worry about controlling abortion is the unspoken control of women’s bodies. By banning abortion, you are taking away women’s autonomy. By criminalising control over themselves, you are making women second (if not third) class citizens. If a woman does abort a child, you should not incarcerate her, and even if that is the law in the part of the world you’re in, a women should certainly not be indicted for miscarrying! [LINK] Women should not be forced into having back-alley abortions and all the health risks that they entail, because they are not allowed to have medical care that could easily be provided. I have some sympathy in countries where there is not the technology or perhaps trust in medicine and abortions not being carried out there. However, it terrifies me that people are praising countries like the USA for changing the law against abortion. We are nowhere near equality for women, and the few rights that women do have are slowly being eroded and taken away.

photo from metro.co.uk
So after everything, if you were to ask me whether I agree with abortions, I would answer no, I don’t. However, I don’t think they should be criminalised, I just wish they were a service that was never used. Women should be free to enquire about and use abortion clinics without condemnation and oppression. They should not be attacked and abused for walking into one and having to be accompanied by bouncers and the like. Women should have control over their whole reproductive health – access to good education, good information, contraception, abortion (though imo hopefully it wouldn’t be used) and support services during the pregnancy and beyond. There should be health and social welfare so that girls do not consider abortion because they are “young” or women, because they are “poor”. 

The whole of society needs to act in the best interests of the poorest and the weakest members, and sometimes that may be the ‘least-worst’ option of abortion. Just because I could never have an abortion, does not mean I have the right to impose my beliefs on to other people.

Friday 28 June 2019

Butlin's Holiday


This past week we’ve been to Butlin’s Minehead. 

We have been every year since DD1 was 2yo. I always thought Butlin's was an expensive holiday, and couldn’t understand how other families could afford it (and I still have that opinion if you come at certain times of year). However, we initially used our Tesco Clubcard Vouchers towards our first holiday, and we haven’t looked back since. If you go to Butlin's yearly, then you become a Bronze Member which gives you money off. We’ve found that Bronze membership, plus booking in the January Sales for term-time holidays (yet another benefit of HEing) means that we can afford to keep coming back each year. Usually we come during September, as the schools are back so the prices are cheaper, but the weather is still warm at the end of summer. Tbf to Butlin's, there is enough going on indoors that even if the weather is atrocious, there is plenty to do and not get bored. However, as DD1 is off to school in September, we thought we could fit in one last term-time holiday to Butlin's. I don’t know if we’ll ever be back again.

There are different grades of accommodation at Butlin's, and we’ve stayed in most of them. Our very first year we stayed in a silver apartment, 3 storeys up. Not the wisest move with a 2yo and a pushchair! Since then, we’ve always paid extra for patio (it’s only £15 extra!) as that way it’s guaranteed to be ground floor.


I would also recommend always going for the most expensive accommodation that you can afford. One year we managed to get into the Blue Skies Apartments, that look out to sea. That was lovely, however, we ended up all crowded in one room at night so wasn’t the most comfortable. The apartment was set up so the children were sharing the sofa bed in the living room, however I was still breastfeeding DD2 at the time, and DD1 didn’t want to be alone; hence we were all cramped in one room. The following year, the prices for that accommodation rocketed, so we have not been back.

Last year, we tried the new Lakeside Chalets at Minehead. They were great, and felt really big and airy due to the high ceilings. A slightly further walk back at night (but not unpleasant, and the whole site is walkable, so wasn’t a big deal), and our balcony was out over the lake itself. My husband wanted to go back there, but I couldn’t justify the cost over a Gold Apartment.

We have stayed in a Gold Apartment this year, as we do most years. We get 2 bedrooms, a bathroom, and a kitchen/living room, that comes complete with fridge, mini freezer, oven, microwave and dishwasher. There is a Tesco’s en route to Butlin's, so we stop there on the way before we check-in to buy food for the week. Though it may not seem like a ‘holiday’ if we’re cooking our own food, actually I prefer it to the dining plans that are on offer. We tried them one year, but found the times you got given to eat were too restrictive, and meant the children couldn’t do some of the activities they wanted to. So instead, we stock up on easy-to-cook meals and eat out a couple of times in the restaurants here. This year we have eaten in the Firehouse Grill which is a Nandos-esque chicken restaurant, and today we ate in The Diner, a 1950s style American diner that serves burgers, ribs, waffles and huge milkshakes.

The entertainment on offer is brilliant here. It’s all singing, all dancing, live action etc. (In comparison, last year we went to Menorca in an All-Inclusive hotel and the entertainment were miming to the songs.) There is always a choice of what to do or where to go. When the children were younger, we were running around here and there, keeping the kids entertained, and as it’s almost all included in the price you want to make the most of it. Now our girls are older, things are generally more relaxed. I haven’t even had to make my usual drink for the week! (You are not allowed to take your own drinks into the evening venues as there are bars open. However, they do sell bottles of coke on site. I have discovered that should you refill a 500ml bottle in your apartment, you can take those into the venue. And they don’t even check whether it just contains coke, or whether it also includes malibu…) The extra activities they want to do, though, does cost more. Today they did the High Ropes course, and I had pre-bought (because it’s cheaper to buy in advance) All-Action Passes which allow one free turn (each) on the Bungee Trampoline, Go-Karts, Crazy Golf, Bowling and American Pool. And I’ve not even mentioned the swimming pool with flumes and lazy river that’s included in the price, nor the fair ground where all the rides are free. And the beach is literally on the doorstep outside the resort, with the town of Minehead a short walk away.


This week has gone really quickly, and I can’t believe we have to be checked-out of our room by 10am tomorrow! The girls are sad to be going home, as they are at the end of every holiday. And I’m sad to think this may be our last Butlin's trip. At least I know the girls will look back at our time(s) here and have lots of happy memories. Who knows, maybe we will be able to squeeze in more trips here in the future?

Wednesday 26 June 2019

Three Concerts in Five Days


Last week, we finally got to experience the girls’ Christmas presents! As we’re trying to move away from excessive ‘stuff’, we decided to get the girls experiences for Christmas instead – in this case, the girls’ first concerts. We had intended to see P!nk on Thursday in Cardiff, and Bon Jovi on the Sunday in Coventry. Unfortunately, DD1’s singing school changed the date of their show, from the week after to that Sunday! Initially we asked DD1 to decide whether she would prefer to do her show, or see the Bon Jovi concert, but after some thinking, we came up with a different solution – seeing Bon Jovi on a different date.

So, on Wednesday, we travelled up to Liverpool to see Bon Jovi at Anfield. It was the first time my husband and I had seen Bon Jovi for 11 years, and the first concerts our girls had ever been to. They loved it. DD2 was slightly tired, but DD1 was in her element. The Manic Street Preachers were the warm-up band (we’d seen them in concert in their own right, previously) and played all the classics. Bon Jovi was as good as ever, and DD1 loved it, up on her feet and dancing the whole night. JBJ himself was great, and even played the guitar a few times. Tico Torres was looking old, but he is late 60s tbf, and his drum playing was still phenomenal. Dave Bryan looked the same as always, but you only ever see his mop of hair anyway, lol. They had 2 other guitarists, one who reminded me of Robert Downee Junior, and the other had long black hair and was absolutely brilliant on the guitar. The concert was great, with a mix of old and new songs as they played at least one song from each album; from Runaway right up to This House Is Not For Sale. The only really famous songs they didn’t play were Always and Blaze of Glory, but they did complete a 30min encore after a 2hr set.


After staying in a hotel overnight, we drove the next day down to Cardiff to see Pink. While, arguably (and obviously) the Bon Jovi concert was mainly for me, both myself and my girls love Pink. Yes she swears a bit, but her music is great and the message she gives out is fantastic. And her lyrics have caused us to have some interesting conversations about slang, and various cultural sexual references that the girls will need to know about as they get older. I’m a big believer that you should be honest with your children, so though I will explain things in an age-appropriate way I will be honest with them if they want to know what a specific word or phrase means. Pink’s concert was great. Again, she did all her big songs – she didn’t sing my favourites, but I’m not surprised as they are the slower/more depressing songs (my favourites are Family Portrait and Misery). And her concert was A. MAZ. ING! All the concerts I’ve been to have been rock concerts, with a band playing their songs. Pink is a true performer, she entered the stage hanging from a chandelier, and did a helluva lot of acrobatics from trapeze, ribbons and ropes, not to mention her finale when she is flying over the crowd. With hindsight, I am really glad my girls saw Bon Jovi first, as I think had they seen Pink first, they would have wrongly thought that all concerts were like that.



As I was missing DD1’s show, on Saturday, I volunteered to chaperone the tech rehearsal, and I was really glad I did because I got to see most of it. It was Seussical Junior, and was really good. Obviously, my daughter was brilliant – she was a Wickersham Brother – but actually, that singing school has a lot of fantastic singers and performers, and the reports I had heard about the shows on the Sunday say what a success it was.

On Sunday, I went to see Bon Jovi again. I was worried about selling the tickets and getting my money back, but I managed to sell 2 tickets to some family members, the third to a friend who we always see Bon Jovi tribute bands together, and I took the 4th ticket. Again, we stayed in a hotel overnight, so we were reliant on taxis getting to and from the stadium. This wasn’t the first time I had been to two Bon Jovi concerts in the same tour – the last time was in 2001 and they played a different set in each place. This time was no different. Though my seats were better this time (we were opposite the stage, rather than just having a side-view), Bon Jovi did a shorter encore so they played more songs at the first one.  I did have a funny experience - the queues were really long, so my friend and I went to the stall with the shortest queues: cocktails! So I had two blue pina coladas (pina coladas with blue curacao added), as you do.  When walking back to my seat, I overheard a little girl exclaim to her mum: "I told you they do slushies!" before the mum tried to explain that the drinks weren't suitable for children.



Three concerts in five days was great fun, but very tiring. I’m not as young as I used to be!

Monday 24 June 2019

Finished Reading the Bible!


I have done it! I have read the whole Bible in 6 months. I have read the Bible through before, but this was the fastest I had ever achieved it. We aimed for 50 chapters a week, and on the whole we managed it; adjusting sometimes depending on what was going on in our lives. It wasn’t easy going, but I am glad I have done it.


Whereas I read every word (I am generally a fast reader anyway), my study partner read some of the books, and listened to others whilst cooking or driving. The idea behind such a read-through is to see the over-arching themes of the Bible, see how books relate to each other, rather than a deep dive into specific topics, so it’s possible to get the gist of what is happening whilst doing other activities. For me, I like to read as I take DD2 to bed. She still doesn’t like going to sleep on her own, so my husband or I stay in her room with her until she drifts off. I know some parents may consider that to be a huge ask, but for us it works – on the nights I take her to bed, I get to do reading on my phone in the dark, and the nights my husband takes her to bed, I get to watch my programs/films in peace.

Having read the whole Bible, I’m not going to dive straight back into Genesis (though there are some people who can do that). By focussing on completing my 50 chapters each week, meant that I couldn’t read the other books I usually do. Normally, I read 1 chapter (or ‘Day’ if reading Bible-in-a-year) of the Bible, 1 chapter of each of the non-fiction books I read, and then as-much-as-I-can of the fiction book I’m reading (and I only read 1 fiction book at a time). As I haven’t had as much time to read, or when I did it was late in the evening, it has meant that I have not read my current fiction book as fast as I usually would. I won’t say to much about it now, as I’ll describe it when I finally do finish it, but I’m only just over half way through the book, and have been reading it for months now. It’s not helped by it being set in the 1600s, so uses very old language, which means I need to concentrate when reading it (hence why I can’t read it late at night). I am enjoying it though, so am looking forward to having a bit more time to read it. What I will do, Bible-wise, is read some daily devotionals/readings books, and then in January, I’ll read a Year-in-a-Bible again.


If you haven’t read through the Bible, and it is something you would like to do (whether because you’re a Christian or because you like the kudos of being able to say you’ve read various works of literature) it isn’t as daunting as it first seems. 50 chapters a week, and it takes 6 months (or 25/wk and it takes a year) or you could get a Bible-in-a-Year which takes all thought away as you simply look up the date and it gives you a reading from the Old Testament, New Testament, Psalms and Proverbs, such that you’ve read the whole thing by New Year’s Eve.

Monday 17 June 2019

Weekly Update No24

This week has been an up and down week - by weighing myself daily I could see that I got down to the lowest weight I had for a month.  And I put it all back on again and more.  Today, I have lost weight again, but am still higher than I was this time last week.

So, I'm back on the smoothies (which isn't a bad thing as they are delicious and filling).  Today I am drinking Innocent's Cacao and Cherry flavour one; and I have planned chicken with vegetables for tea tonight.  My husband wants to lose weight, but is trying to do it through calorie counting.  I am trying to introduce him to the 2B Mindset, not least because there is now a 28day meal plan that is ready to follow.  This week is a busy week for us, and I'm not sure I'll be able to update everyone next Monday either as I won't be at home, with lots of travelling around the country.  I do need to plan out what we're going to eat, as otherwise when in motorway services I'll be tempted by fast food again; which is ok once in a while, but not every day if travelling every day.

I also need to start grooving again. It's something I really enjoy doing, and the 30 day challenge has been a challenge for me.  Not because the workouts are too hard (whilst some are challenging, they are great fun), but because I don't prioritise myself.  And on the rare occasions when I do have enough time at home to actually do it, I do something else (like update this blog... or watch TV because it's late in the day).  I am part of the FB group that is helpful for motivation, but really I need someone who can push me harder, nag me often, or want to come round and join me.

Friday 14 June 2019

A Bigger Confidence Boost

Following on from my previous post, DD1 finished the third of the maths SATS papers this morning.

She had been putting this off because she doesn't like arithmetic. She had done the two reasoning papers with no problems (though had omitted any of the arithmetic questions), and I wasn't surprised to see that she's above average for those two.  In fact, if she had been bothered to do the arithmetic questions, I think she could have got near full marks.  As it was, she did well enough over the 2 reasoning papers, that she only required 8 marks on the arithmetic paper in order to get 100/expected once the scores had been converted.

So this morning, whilst I was tutoring somebody downstairs, DD1 was upstairs doing the arithmetic paper.  When I had finished, I called her down to see how she did.  She was upset, because some of the things she knew how to do, she couldn't remember.  I tried to explain that happens to everybody, and it's ok.  DD1 is a perfectionist (which may be part of being on the spectrum?) and is comfortable with not knowing something, but if she has been taught something once, she feels like she should never make a mistake about that again.

Together we marked her paper.  From the first questions, she got 8 marks without a problem!  She did start to make some mistakes, or missed out some questions, but managed to get 26 marks over the whole paper, which converted to a score of 104 ie above the expected level for the end of Year 6! 

I also explained that things are taught in school much slower, where a topic is introduced, then there are examples that the teacher does, then you do questions, and more questions for homework, and when the topic comes around again later in the year or the next school year, there is a recap of what was learned previously.  I have no issues with DD1's ability to learn when things get repeated so often - if anything, my concern is that's she may act up if she's bored because she has remembered it the first time!

The only SATs paper left to do is the Reading/Comprehension one.  Given she was a fluent reader at the age of 3 (that's why we HEd in the first place), I'm not worried about this paper.  In fact, I don't really mind whether she does it or not - except for my own quirks that I want it done for completeness.

Tuesday 11 June 2019

Meeting with DfE discussing Children Not In School


Notes from the meeting with Department for Education (DfE) regarding Children Not In School Consultation, in Coventry 10th June 2019

Please note: These are MY notes, they are my summaries, ‘take-aways’, understanding, paraphrasing and the general gist of the points made. Though it is in transcript-format, these are notes and are NOT quotes, nor everything that was mentioned.

A summary of the points covered is included at the end.

Attendees:
S – Stephen Bishop, DfE representative hosting the meeting. Mainly works with Independent schools.
A – HEr, against registration
B – HEr, against registration
C – HEr, against registration
D – HE child, against registration
E – HEr, against registration
F – HEr, against registration
G – HEr, against registration
H – For registration: Exwife took son out of school without informing him; did not educate child, and LA claimed to have no power to do anything (child now older). He wants to stop children falling through the net and thinks registration is a good thing.

Notes:

S – Their aim: to hear from HErs what is problematic with the proposals, not whether we’re for/against them.
In Autumn, the government will be publishing the response document to the consultation.

C – How have you tried to engage children?

S – None. No effort to engage children.

F – In the Department's response to No4 of UNHCR statement it stated that you wanted to engage and involve children, before suggesting that many HE parents would oppose you doing so.
Northern Ireland have produced a booklet for children as part of their current consultation.

[Added Note Afterwards: 
We'd assumed Easy Read meant it was for children - but HedNI's take on this actually says:
"A note on the Easy Read Guidelines: "These are wholly inadequate. It is very important that people with language or literacy issues are able to fully understand the process which they will go through if there are concerns about the education which is being provided. We do not believe that the Easy Read Guidelines will provide that clarity, or empower families to insist on fair and legal treatment."]

C – Wales consultation produced a booklet and meetings specifically for children.
Teens etc are currently focussed on exams, GCSEs, preparing for college, returning to school etc. This is the second year in a row that there has been a consultation at this time of year, which is not considerate to the needs of children.

F – Similarly, it is difficult for parents at this time of year with national exams, so is asking a lot. Last year’s consultation was probably not compliant to Cabinet Office guidance.

S – In summary, we haven’t engaged children, it is bad timing for children and bad timing for parents. [Note – he repeated what we told him, as he wrote it down.]

F – In section 2.5, my concern is DfE only can guarantee promise kept that register is not a licence to HE so how are they going to make sure that is the case. Many HErs scared of scope creep. Secondary legislation doesn’t get treated with the same fine tooth comb, so the department has to guarantee that it doesn’t become a licensing scheme in the future. It should be renamed from “registration” to “notification”.
In Isle of Man, they came to conclusion that a notification scheme adheres better to human rights than registration.
Comparison to cars on road vs on private land; and TV for BBC channels vs other online channels

C – Parents are demoralised, it looks like a done deal, full of emotive and destructive language, thinking “what’s the point?” bothering to complete consultation. The government aren’t listening, and it feels like an attack.

B – What is the aim of the consultation?
To prevent radicalisation? Illegal schools? abuse/neglect? How will a register achieve these aims?

H – Exwife claiming to HE, against his will. She is not providing an education and LA agree, but have no power. He’s here to protect children and parents in his situation.

B – There already are powers.

H – checks should be more stringent.

G – There’s a conflict of interest between LAs and parents if LAs are monitoring parents.
Analogy: Sainsbury’s monitoring local grocery shops.

A – Except Sainsbury’s have experience and are qualified to judge, but LAs don’t have qualifications in education or pedagogy or child development.

C – Many LAs have part time workers, not focussed on HE, spend more time doing truancy, EWO etc.

B – Inconsistent across the country. Conducted a survey across the country and 52% of LAs are “neutral or worse”. Eg they doorstep, or don’t give enough notification. Lots of bad practice across the country.
There needs to be mutual trust and respect between LAs and HErs.

E – New guidelines produced in Ireland, working with HErs and HEDNI. There was more respect, more positive consultation and more understanding of issues.

F – DfE needs to know HErs better.

G – There should be a section in the DfE or a quasi-government group made up of people trained in HE or previous HErs.
An example of bad practice: first letter to new HErs contains the code SAO1, indicating that the LA regard it as the first step in issuing SAO.

C – Need to find common ground. We care very much about education; we spend a lot of time, money and mental load regarding the education of our children.

B – Need to get LAs working in partnership with HErs.
Currently there is discrimination due to name, religion, skin colour etc.

F – The relationship between LAs and parents was bad in the 90s and is getting worse.

B – LAs have no support to offer HErs. What incentive is there for HErs to engage?

S – Go through first proposal – Duty of LA to maintain register.

C – What is the purpose of the register? All kids that were in school are already known as schools must inform the LA when a child is deregistered.
The only new people the register will catch are kids who have never been to school, eg philosophical HErs who typically have planned and thought about HE the most.
DfE wants to hunt us down via Gps, dentists etc through datasharing.

H – how can you guarantee that children won’t be missed?

C – Every case ending in SCR, the child was already on a register.
Instead, you want to snoop on me, breeching my privacy, to find out about my children.

F – There was one case came to light last year in Wales where a child was hidden and abused (not Dylan Seabridge). The father was in a second relationship and appeared to manipulate/control the girl's mother. Such people are unlikely to register. During the investigation, an older daughter, by his first wife said he had also abused her. At the time she had been at school.
Back to LAs, what happens when staff changes? If there’s a bad relationship between LAs and HErs, then a register won’t solve anything.
G – Parents could stop going to dentists and doctors.

B – Some LAs are outright lying; they breech data protection; they refer to SS and threaten to take people to court. LA practices should be consistent across the country and the people need to be trained.

A – Who can LAs be reported to?
There is bad practice locally, eg a letter sent to an HEr at their old address, but they were doorstepped at new address. If the LA had the new address, why couldn’t the letter be sent there?

G – Will you invite examples of good/bad LA practice and letters?

S – Yes, copies of letters can be emailed in, but they are not in the scope of this consultation.
This is about “registration and support” only, not monitoring

S - Move on to discussion about Settings

C – Who is maintaining the register? HErs go to lots of places and setting for education. One person reported they go to over 15 different settings each week. It will be lots of work to maintain and keep up to date; unmanageable, onerous and annoying.

S – Is a museum trip an educational setting?

HErs – Yes

S – We need to define a “setting”

D – I don’t like what you’re saying in the consultation

C – D is working hard to complete the online consultation.
A general point – there is a negative impact of the consultation and media campaign on HE kids. The kids hear, read, watch etc others’ opinions.

G – One reason why number of HErs has increased is because of off-rolling. Need to look at schools and Ofsted, rather than HErs

C – Children are interrogated at the check-out or by a person in the street. It can impact the child so they may not want to leave home.

G – There should be a separate consultation just for children.

F – I have a big concern regarding data protection issues. The information needs to be as little as possible, and should not be shared. The DfE should do a proforma format.

S – Now discuss the Parent’s Perspective.

F – Section 3.4 says an SAO will be issued if child not registered. If it is a welfare concern, then the LA should start care proceedings. LAs don’t understand the difference between education and welfare concerns. In both Khyra I and Dylan S cases, they were both already known to SS. It was welfare concerns, not education concerns.

H – In my case, there is no sharing of info. The EHEO didn’t know about SS involvement until I intervened. SS are overstretched and underfunded, so unless they reach a threshold of ‘badness’ then nothing gets done.

G – In Glos, SS raised welfare concerns to retaliate against parents who made complaints. There is an assumption that you can trust bureaucrats not to abuse their powers, but that’s not true.

C – Education and Welfare are separate, but the DfE do conflate them in the guidance, so it is not surprising LAs get confused.
I gain nothing by registering, only inviting arbitrary interference.
If there’s a sanction for non-registration, once the LA becomes aware of a child, then the LA already has the info about that child!

S – Another logical fallacy?

C – Yes. Sanctions gain nothing, and being on a register is punishment enough.

H – Surely it’s there to protect children?

F – Unless it is spelled out to LAs that this is registration, not monitoring, we’re in trouble. LAs are watching their own backs, so veer on monitoring.

C – It will impact children. Those who HE will become defensive and suspicious. Those who don’t actually HE won’t care.
LAs should always start with informal enquiries. Some LAs will assume a register is a green light to go straight to s437/SAO.

H – Children can still fall through the net

L – How will a register make any difference?

H – It won’t. My LA says it can’t do anything because it hasn’t met the threshold, but they agree the education is not suitable, and they have no powers.

S – Can’t believe an LA says that. The law hasn’t changed and should be sufficient to intervene.
Move onto discussion about settings.
We need to define settings.

B – Who are you targetting?

S – The Evangelical Alliance has listed their concerns on their website.

B – There definitely needs to be clarification. There are many types of settings: local groups eg for 2 hrs/wke; tutor groups set up for specific subjects, sports groups etc

A – Lots of groups may close because they are run by HEing parents, and they don’t want to maintain a register.

C – Group organisers are terrified of Ofsted, having to become a data controller, having to register with ICO, etc. It will cause HE as we know it to collapse.

G – If an educational setting I take my son to is poor, I will fail as a parent due to the existing law.

B – Encourage schools to flexi-school for specific subjects eg maths or science, and everyone will be happy.

C – Many things can be resolved by talking if there is mutual respect and communication.
Why would a parent pay if there’s an educational concern somewhere?
Don’t sanction settings for not keeping a register. How do you stop a setting from saying “no children during school hours”?

F – If a museum runs a “school session” for HErs, does this need to be registered and reported?

S – No, this is not the intention of this. “Setting” needs to be defined.

C – What if LAs think everything is a setting? They will use their own opinions and can define terms differently.

G – Example of Ofsted person not caring about a safeguarding concern at a school, but was more concerned about a child who was recently removed from school, as school was the best place (ie ignoring concerns).
By causing settings to register, you only catch parents who facilitate a wide education, rather than those who keep children at home.

E – HE is relational and networking is important.

F – Registering only HErs is discriminatory.
This section is a response to rhetoric, whipped up by people who have an agenda against Jewish yeshivas and Muslim unregistered schools ande have involved EHE in their campaigns.
Legislation about illegal schools need to be separate to legislation about HE. Don’t conflate them.
A – Made a point about 18hours dancing/wk (for illustration, ignoring that it is after school hours). My girls would have to be put on a register, but not their schooled friends.

C – You are giving illegal schools a loophole, as they can move their hours to “after school” so they won’t need to register.

S – Move on to duty of LAs to provide support

B – Hampshire is a good example as they fund exams – Faregos

C – Mutual trust so HErs can be known to the LA, without being known.

G – Support needs to be more than just exams. Eg resources if something is a genuine need, ed textbooks, tutoring, internet…

S – a personal budget?

E – But what is the catch? Any offer of support needs to be optional.

C – It needs to be optional.
It comes across that LAs are nice because they want to trap you. Need to move to a situation where LAs are nice because they want to be helpful.
LAs need training, so they are not coercive.
DfE needs to get LAs to work with HErs and have a liaison department

G – Building trust is gradual

C – There needs to be an ombudsman/adjudicator, so parents can report an LA that oversteps their remit.

B – There needs to be a complaints procedure.

F – People complain they don't know about the outcomes for EHE children, but if DfE pays for exams, then they could collect information about the results.

B – Anne Longfield quoted wrong numbers when she talked about exams and the number of children taking GCSEs. At one centre alone, there was more HErs taking exams than she quoted for the whole country.

F – The Family Test, UNHCR statement and Equalities Log are poorly written. There is no discussion about the benefits of HE children outside of a school setting. The Equalities Log is prejudiced against some HErs.

S – Run out of time

F – How full are the other meetings?

S – No numbers to hand, but no session exceeds 20 people.




Summary of points made:

  • Consultation bad practice
    • Lack of engagement with children, and coinciding with exam season
    • Full of emotive/destructive language
    • Reads as if a “done deal” so puts HErs off responding
  • DfE needs to guarantee the register doesn’t become a licence to HE
  • DfE needs to emphasise it’s registration not monitoring
  • Conflict of interest between LAs and parents if LAs are monitoring parents
  • LAs inconsistent across the country
    • Some good examples
      • collaborating with HErs
      • Mutual trust
      • Exam support/funding
    • Some have very bad practice
      • Doorstepping
      • Lying
      • Threatening with SS/Court
      • LAs don’t understand difference between Education and Welfare concerns
    • LAs need to work with HErs
    • LAs need training about HE from DfE
      • DfE needs to work with HErs to know them better.
  • What is purpose of register? What will it achieve? What do HErs gain from it?
  • Huge Data Protection/Data sharing/Privacy concerns
  • Need for Ombudsman/Adjudicator that LAs can be reported to
  • Needs to be a complaints procedure
  • Need to define an educational “setting”
  • No sanctions for not registering
  • Registering will negatively impact children and groups
  • DfE should encourage schools to flexi-school
  • Registering only HErs is discriminatory
  • Support offered – a person budget,
    • needs to be without strings or a catch
    • needs to be optional
  • Family Test, UNHCR Statement and Equalities Log are poorly written