Saturday, 1 May 2021

Juliette and the Monday ManDates by Becky Doughty

 I loved this book.  Just thinking about it brings a smile to my face.


The blurb says

Juliette is perfectly content with her quiet nights at home alone, especially when they include Chinese takeout and sappy RomComs.

But her sisters think she’s teetering on the brink of spinsterhood. So they've come up with an intervention plan: weekly blind dates until their Jules finds her knight in shining armor… or until they run out of single guy friends.

They’re calling it The Monday ManDates.

Survival skills kicking in, Juliette secretly names each new Monday man. There’s TheraPaul, Frisky Frank, and TAZ the Rock Star, for starters. Then there’s the Officer Manly Man, the policeman with a penchant for pulling Juliette over when she’s at her very worst.

With a lineup like that, positively identifying her happily-ever-after seems like a long shot.

Then again, maybe, just maybe, she’s looking for love in all the wrong places.


This book is really funny.  Juliette is quirky and down-to-earth, and shows life as it is. She is messy, if something could go wrong, it would.  Her sisters think they know what's best for her, so decide to set her up with their friends.  Meanwhile, she keeps getting into trouble with the law.

This is chick lit at its best.  There is some Christianity and church-going thrown in, which was a nice surprise for me, but I doubt it would put off someone from enjoying the book who wasn't Christian.

I'm still trying not to buy more books atm, but have added the rest of the series to my wishlist.


Thursday, 29 April 2021

I Can Make You Thin by Paul McKenna

 


Given not much else was working, at the start of the year, I purchased I Can Make You Thin.

The blurb says:

Welcome to a revolutionary way to stop overeating, control cravings and feel totally motivated to take exercise. Paul McKenna has developed a breakthrough weight-loss system that re-patterns your thoughts, attitudes and beliefs about yourself, your health and food to help you easily take control of your diet and lose weight permanently.

As you use Paul's amazing system, the latest psychological techniques will automatically help you to start losing weight straight away! You can use it again and again to make you feel happier about yourself as you go all the way to your ideal shape, size and weight.

I remember Paul McKenna from his TV hypnotism where people would act like fools on stage.  But, having used hypnotherapy when I was pregnant, I know that it can work.  Mainly, I got this for the book, because, well, I like books.

I read the book slowly, as I wanted to take in as much as possible, and I listened to the audio/hypnotherapy when I had a spare half hour.  I found that by listening regularly, it helped me keep in mind the positive reasons why I'd like to lose weight and encouraged self belief that I could make it happen.  

Much of the book is common sense, and it dovetails nicely with other books I've been reading concurrently, but having the audio is worth the price of the book itself.  I haven't lost much weight using it; it certainly isn't a cure-all - but the repetition of eating slowly and mindfully does help you develop good eating habits, and this book is much more about a lifestyle change, rather than weightloss (imo, despite the title of the book).

So, would I recommend it?  Actually, yes.  Even though I didn't lose weight using it, it has helped give me the self belief that I am worth it, I deserve to be fit and healthy, and taking just 30min a day to rest and focus on myself, is good for me too.  And as I have made other changes to my life recently, maybe this book and audio have had more, indirect, impact than I thought when I started this review.

 

Tuesday, 27 April 2021

Weekly Update

My weight this morning was 93.1kg.  I have still been recording my weight, even when I haven't been posting here, and it has been bobbling around the 92-94kilo mark for weeks.  That probably explains some of my apathy for posting updates here, and the fact I've genuinely been really busy.


Recently on TV I watched Strong on Netflix and that inspired me to try focussing on fitness and strength rather than weight.  Then I watched Series 1 of The Biggest Loser (Australia) and I am lighter than all the women (and men, for that matter) at the start of the show, but they quickly dropped weight.  Now, I am not going to be spending 8+ hours each day training, but it has inspired me to start a new exercise routine.  I have even taken some new 'before' pics, but I won't share them (until I see a difference, lol).


I started last week, and aim to do an hour on a Monday and on a Friday.  So far, I have done my 3 sessions in my back garden!  Today I have woken up with an ache in my triceps and in my gluts, so I'm definitely doing something!  I don't know if it will translate into weight loss (especially as I'm not going to go on a strict diet) but it's a start, and I'll hopefully be fitter and healthier.  



Wednesday, 21 April 2021

It's been nearly a month!!!

My poor neglected blog!  I'm so sorry!  You wouldn't believe how busy I have been - actually, you would, given how sporadic my posting has been so far this year.  I'm hoping I'll have finally turned a corner now, but who knows?  I have been posting mildly more often direct on my facebook page, so if you don't follow it, you should do so now: https://www.facebook.com/MusingsMiddleagedMum .


The Education Select Committee's Inquiry into Home Education is still ongoing.  I have given further submissions, but that hasn't been published yet, nor my personal one.  I'm still involved in helping home educators locally and nationally know their rights, answer their questions, deal with their Local Authorities, etc.  I'm also talking at an upcoming HE conference, so I hope people will have plenty of questions as I'm not good at talking about nothing, lol.  I suppose I should find some FAQs and have them on standby so I can ask and answer my own questions if I need to.  Details of the conference: https://www.learnfree.org.uk/ 

Have I mentioned that DD2 got into the same school as DD1?  So from September, I'll no longer be a home educator! <sob>  I'll still be involved in the community and the politics, but will be stepping down from some of my adminning duties on FB as I don't think it's right that a non-home educator admins local groups.

Weightloss has been a bit up and down.  More up than down, but hopefully that has turned a corner now.  I've got a(nother) new exercise routine that I've paid for so will be sticking with for a while.  Had my first session on Monday, and boy, did I ache afterwards!!!  I hope to be doing this every Monday and Friday for the foreseeable, so hopefully that will have an impact on my weight.  I've also decided to try some monetary incentive.  From a starting weight of 94kilos, for every 1kg I can keep off for a solid 3 weeks, I will put a tenner to one side.  The Pros: If I get down to my dream weight, I'll have £300 to spend on new clothes. The Cons: My weight is up and down like a yoyo, so I could be averaging , for example, 75kilos, and then randomly have 1 day of 82kilos.  But, it's added incentive, so lets see if it works.

I haven't listened to my hypnotherapy CDs for a while either - I've not even had time to take 30min for myself at home.  But, now that the girls' dance classes are back in the studios, I've magically got more time for reading (because I am sat in my car waiting!) so hope to start writing reviews again.

So sorry, again, for the silent treatment.  I hope to be posting more regularly again soon xx

Tuesday, 23 March 2021

Education Select Committee Panel 2

These are my notes, thoughts and random comments as I watch the live panel.  As I am watching this and typing at the same time, this post will not be polished. It will be raw and blunt, and hopefully makes sense!

This time there are two pro-HE panel members: Wendy Charles-Warner and Dr Amber Fensham-Smith.

https://parliamentlive.tv/event/index/13b0286c-334f-4568-9888-b8c8a7e52855

The witnesses are:
Victor Shafiee
Deputy Director, unregistered and independent schools at Ofsted
Mrs Wendy Charles-Warner
Trustee at Education Otherwise
Dr Amber Fensham-Smith
Lecturer in Childhood and Youth Studies at The Open University
Ellen Collier
Service Manager, Education Welfare Service, Social Care and Education, at Leicester City Council

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I don't know if this video will be edited at all afterwards, but if it doesn't, you will want to fast forward to 10:14:58 otherwise you will be sitting through ages of "The proceeding will start shortly" and continually thinking, "Really? Will it?" lol

So it has started, and already gone out-of-scope by asking Victor about historical sexual abuses in independent schools.  As important as that issue is, it's nothing to do with home education.

The initial question is about consistency of LAs directed to Wendy and Ellen.  Wendy rightly talks about lack of training and expectation of "school at home", which leads into lack of engagement between home educators and LAs.

Ellen says there's a LA forum where LAs talk to each other to interpret the guidance - this may explain why many LAs are suddenly overreaching in the same way at the same time.

Another question: how can LAs know they have found all HE children if there is not a complete database, specifically if there are children who have never been to school?  And asking why there is 171% increase in SAOs issued?

Wendy queries the data and says it is wrong for the past year.  The increase is because LAs are issuing s437s or SAOs because they are not receiving information in the form they want or in the style they want. - This has been my experience too.  Some LAs go power-crazy.  You can search into what has been happening to home educators by Portsmouth CC!

Ellen mentions asking for photographs of children and their work as suitable evidence of their home education. I have written to my LA multiple times about issuing photographs:

Firstly, local home educators were not informed in advance of the inspection as per section 3.9 of the EHE DGfLAs: “Local authorities should keep known home educators and local home education support organisations informed of forthcoming Ofsted inspections and any input they can have, as well as outcomes of inspections – although reports on these are available on the Ofsted website.” This meant they were unable to be consulted for the inspection and unable to give their views.
Secondly, Ofsted’s remit does not cover the content of individual’s home education provision, so there is no need to ask for samples or photos of the children’s work.
Ofsted’s report from December 2020 states “[REDACTED]”
There is no suggestion you should be asking for samples of work.
Their previous report (July 2019) states “[REDACTED]”
Doing a strategic analysis to determine the reasons behind parents electing to home educate, and monitoring your own internal arrangements of this analysis is to be recommended.
However, I am sure you are aware that Section 5.1 of the EHE Departmental Guidance for Parents says “Your local authority has no formal powers or duty to monitor the provision of education at home.”
Section 6.12 of the EHE Departmental Guidance for Local Authorities says “An authority should not dismiss information provided by parents simply because it is not in a particular form preferred by the authority.”
As such, you should be accepting written reports of the education provision as sufficient, unless you have any specific concerns. Similarly, if you do have specific concerns, you should be expanding on what these are, so the parent can directly address them.
Additionally, some children explicitly do not want their work to be shared with anyone. As per Articles 12 and 16 of the Convention of the Rights of the Child (specifically Respect for Children’s Views and Protection of Privacy), this should be respected. It is inadequate of the LA to determine that the education is unsatisfactory solely based on a family opting to send in information in a different form, rather than sending samples of work.
I hope you can understand that, unless you have specific concerns about a specific family, you have no reason to routinely ask for photos or samples of work, and home educators are not obliged to give that information to you. As such, I ask the EHE department to again refrain from sending letters asking for this.

Victor emphasises that Ofsted do not have a role in monitoring HErs.

After a few questions, then we get to see each of the panel members introduce themselves.

Why has numbers of HE grown so much?  Wendy talks about bad MH of British children and the reasons why parents are choosing to HE.  Victor dismisses Wendy's research with no valid reason - does he think FOI requests etc are not valid??  And he is talking about the mythical home educator who wants to isolate their children. Amber gives a good answer about the fact that there is research and also that reasons change within a single family over time.

Wendy brings up the valid point that you shouldn't assume that all home educators are abusing their children.  Johnathon thinks it is put on a parity with school, whereas Wendy says that HE kids are much more likely to be referred to SS, but in reality they are no more at risk than schooled children.  Also, it hasn't mentioned that schools are monitored so highly because they act in parental locus.  Given HE has to be done by parents/legal guardians, to monitor parents on behalf of themselves just doesn't make sense.

To try and speed things along, the next four people are asking their questions all at once.  

Victor thinks there should be a register and that it will be a 'light touch' for parents - clearly he hasn't actually thought about this too deeply. (See my previous post about why registration is bad.)  

Amber brings up looking at alternative models and their success (eg Tasmania and Australia); literature research specifically about children and outcomes is needed, and will need to be longitudinal. Amber has brought up that parents who HE children that need EHCPs, this should be accessible for children who are not in school.

Ellen confirms there are children who are HE who are actually CME, and they identify them, and thinks that there are more children who are labelled HE but are actually CME.  She is blaming parents writing reports so they can't judge what kids are actually doing.

Wendy says that the existing system is sufficient, and highlights that schools also fail to educate some children.  An experienced and competent EHEO will know the difference.  Wendy also differentiates between being known to LAs and being known to peer support and local HEing groups. LAs should point towards local groups.

Victor says there is no data about unregistered schools.  They thought there were 24, but they've already found over 700.  Because some of the children who attend these schools are said they are home educating, he thinks this is an issue of home education, but then goes on to say these unregistered schools are duping HEing parents.

Should there be a statutory register?

Wendy says no, unless there is a needs assessment.  Wendy points out that Ofsted should provide a register of registered providers so that they will no longer be "duped".

Amber points out that a register alone won't necessarily answer the points Victor made earlier.  And the fact that a register will bring in Monitoring of HE.

Victor acknowledges that the register should be wider than HErs and include children getting s19 support.

Again, Wendy points out that the current process for the LA is sufficient for the LA to get involved, and they should get involved in the minority of cases.

Apsana has asked some good questions (time ~11:20ish).

Good points by Wendy about referring to s7 1996 Ed Act and the individualised education for the individual.

Kim has asked Victor some questions - he thinks that a register will solve the world's problems.  The register should be national, not local, but LA should do the monitoring.  He is right that this is not Ofsted's role.

Victor is talking about the outcomes of children who are attending illegal schools, but that's not outcomes of EHE children.

Caroline is asking about 'outcomes' of literacy of HE children throughout their home education - sounds like she is already talking about the register expanding to include monitoring.  Ellen answers that she does look at progression for each child.  Wendy rightly talks about stepping away from school-based samples as it does not make sense in a HE setting as there are other ways to learn. Caroline is asking a second question about 'measuring' education.  Wendy answers it well.  

Halfon interrupts Wendy and doesn't understand the difference between a child progressing and whether a child is achieving their potential. <MASSIVE EYE ROLL>
Then he goes on to say that SATS are nothing to do with assessing the school, and are only about assessing the children. Ofsted assesses the school, and don't use SATS.
Gah! Stop interrupting!!!
Are SATS a test of the school or the child?
What are SATS?

Caroline's repeated question about a 10year old not reading and whether the education is sufficient or not is infuriating.  Reading is not the only way to gather information and learn!  Personally, I love reading (as if you didn't know - and if you didn't know, click on "Books" in the Word cloud at the top right) and DD1 was a fluent reader at 3, and DD2 learned at 5yo.  That doesn't mean I can sit on my perch and judge children or their parents if they don't read at 10years old.  That child could be learning audibly or through documentaries and hands-on and have an encyclopaedic knowledge about various topics that I have no idea.  There is more than one way to learn, and forcing a test on all children at age 11 or whenever, is not conducive to a good education.

Ellen says there is no available training or course that EHEOs go on.  It's all on-the-job training, and their legal dept determines whether they are interpreting the policy correctly.

Question at the end about accessing exams due to covid.

Wendy rightly picks up the fact that not all EHEOs are well qualified, nor do they have education/relevant qualifications. 

Ellen thinks a register will solve HE kids being unknown based on "knowledge".

And that's the end!




Monday, 22 March 2021

Weekly Update

 A weekly update that is turning into a monthly update. I'm busy - no surprise there!

I started another FutureLearn Course.  Only 3 weeks long, a few hours each week - I've managed 1 week so far, so need to catch up on that.

My work with Educational Freedom is ongoing, as people are always asking for support, as well as the behind the scenes stuff that needs to happen.  I've been contacted by a journalist this morning too, so I need to write a bit for her.

And my working as part of the EHE Alliance is ongoing.  Thankfully I'm part of a bigger team there, but I still need to give my input and am unable to cruise along.

Have I mentioned on this blog I get cysts? Well, I do.  Went to the docs years ago about it and was told "you're just a cystic lady".  Gee, thanks.  This week one burst in my groin, so I've been unable to do any walking (which is reflected in my weight) as I've had an open wound.  It's finally starting to heal today though, yey!, so hopefully won't be too long before I can walk my dog again.  On the positive side, the nurse suggested I may have a condition called Hidradenitis suppurativa or HS, and has arranged a phone appt with a different GP next week, so I can be referred to dermatology.  There actually isn't much they can do, but if I have a diagnosis I can keep antibiotics to hand, so I can treat myself when and as needed, rather than having to go through the rigmarole of making doctor/nurses appointments.  This is another condition that benefits if you are not overweight, so yet another reason why I need to lose weight.

I have finished a couple of books since I last posted too.  Reading really does destress me, so I need to get around to writing those reviews.  Unfortunately, my kindle is still in my car from when I went to the docs last week and I cba to get it out when it was cold and wet.  A sunny day here today, though, so no more excuses.

So back to my weekly update.  Here's my graph for the past 2 months.



Very up and down, but (apart from this past week) there's a definite downward trend.  Once I can start walking again, I need to make sure I go out every day (especially on busy days where I'm tutoring!).

I am feeling strangely motivated this morning though, despite not being able to walk.  Over the weekend I binge-watched Strong on Netflix.  It's about 10 personal trainers and 10 fairly ordinary women who compete to win $500,000 by getting physically and mentally strong.  I particularly liked the fact there was one contestant who was my weight at the start, and she did really well on the show.
So, this morning, I did 1 sit up, 1 push up and 1 Russian twist; tomorrow I will do 2 of each and I will continue as it.  I didn't want to start with 10 or 20 of each in case I found it demoralising - and that was a good call!  The Russian Twist, I could do.  The Push-up I went on my toes (usually I do them on my knees) and managed it.  The sit-up, though.... the one exercise that I could do comfortably... Well, I could do a crunch (I got halfway up), but I don't think it qualifies as a sit-up.  I tried again, getting a bit more momentum into it, and still only got halfway up.  As I said, it's a good thing I didn't try and start doing too many.  Tomorrow I will do two of each, and my strength will improve.

Sunday, 7 March 2021

3 Engineering Activities in 3 Branches of Engineering

As it is British Science Week this week, my local Home Education Group run an annual Science Fair.
Last year, this was the last thing we went to before Lockdown, and this year it's all online.  Due to my background, I was asked if I could do something 'engineeringy' and I've decided to share it with you in case you find it useful.

I've split this up into an Introduction to Engineering plus three dives into different branches of engineering.  I would guesstimate that each branch of engineering (Introduction Video, Specific Video plus 3 activities) would take approximately an hour each, but obviously it depends on the age of the child, their concentration/persistence levels and how interested they are; and I'd only expect you to watch the introduction video once. 

I anticipate that most KS2/3/4 can do all the practicals (KS1 can with help) and KS3/4 can do the worksheets (KS2 with help). Each video is only short, so please pause it after each section and come back to it before starting the next activity.

I am not a natural presenter, and you can see that talking to a screen is not natural for me.  I also had to learn some very basic video-editing skills, so please forgive the lack of professionalism.  Even simple things like keeping my hands in one place, meant there's various continuity errors, lol.  And finally, in order to publish everything on this blog, I had to learn how to attach pdfs to blogger and create a YouTube account!  Despite my engineering background (honestly, I do have a Masters from Oxford in it) I'm a bit of a technophobe and very old skool - I've only been using Google Docs for the past month or so!

As there are practicals for you to do at home, you may want to check that you have the necessary materials/supplies listed below before you start; they are all available at a supermarket, if you don't have them at home already.

Video Transcript, if needed, HERE

**Please Note: Some mobile devices are not showing the videos correctly or at all.  You will either need to switch to the Web Version (there's a tiny button at the bottom of the post) or watch the videos directly from YouTube: https://youtu.be/Rp4kgGoukKY

Introduction to Engineering



Print out Word Search HERE


Civil Engineering



(a) spaghetti and marshmallows or jelly tots

(b) 50+ straws, sticky tape, sheets of paper, glue stick, pen

(c) print out worksheet and separate answers HERE


Mechanical Engineering



(a) 2 kitchen roll tubes (or more toilet roll tubes, to make it taller); 1 straw, string/ribbon, yoghurt pot or paper box

(b) print out picture of cogs HERE, stick to thick cardboard (as thick as possible - it will be even easier to do if you have 3 or four sheets of card stuck together) and cut out shapes; 4 kitchen roll tubes, 2 straws, string/ribbon, yoghurt pot

(c) print out worksheet and separate answers HERE


Electrical Engineering



(a) print out sheets of paper circuits HERE and cut them out, or make your own plus print out of Video Answers HERE

(b) D batteries (perhaps taken from a torch), aluminium foil, electrical tape, light bulb (perhaps taken from a torch)

(c) print out worksheet and separate answers HERE